If you ask people what they want to do or be in life,most will answer something like this:
‘I just want to be happy!’
Man, have I heard this a lot…
To be fair,this is not a bad wish.It’s in human nature,hardcoded into your body,a defense mechanism to go back into a state where you felt good.It’s like a computer,going back to default settings,so it can get rid of the virus.
Have you ever heard,that we need the ‘bad’ things or else we wouldn’t know the difference between sadness and happiness?
Like a PC,when it gets rid of the virus,now ‘knows’ not to catch one again,it has developed the systems to defend.Like your body.You get a shot,you get a little fever,but now your immune system ‘knows’ how to defend against this threat.
There’s an old saying – that which doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, I don’t believe that. I think the things that try to kill you make you angry and sad. Strength comes from the good things, your family, your friends, the satisfaction of hard work. Those are the things that will keep you whole, those are the things to hold onto when you’re broken.
In real life you get down,get hurt and then you get up.Repeat.
You can only learn from pain.Pain must be your teacher.Pain is a constant.There is not a point in your life,where you won’t feel it.It will always be the same,the wounds leave a scar that flares up every time.
But every time you will get up sooner,easier.You will have the knowledge to defend yourself.
‘…that which doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’.No,it makes you wiser.Wiser not to make the same mistakes,wiser to ease the pain,wiser to get up.
Sadness,sorrow,grief.These are the purest emotions a human being can feel.When you are sad,you are nothing else than that.On the other hand,being ‘happy’ is a bastard of an emotion.It’s a combination of adrenaline and immaturity of the soul.
Black and white.Moon and sun.Yin and Yang.Heaven and Hell.It’s the nature of the world.
No wonder why we like ‘sad’ music.Why every masterpiece includes this constant contrast.
Nowadays,we have phones,tv,Facebook etc.When we are about to feel even the slightest of a negative emotion,we turn on the radio,watch a movie and try to forget,num our minds and senses.Block mentally a perfectly natural emotion.
When something too real hits you,you won’t have the mental fortitude ,the wisdom to handle this.Your brain will be fresh.As adults,we have the psychological experiences of a kid.We run away from negative emotions.
Next time pain comes at your door,welcome him as an old friend,a bright teacher.
You are in debt.You have no money.
No friends no family.
You don’t have a job.
You are nothing,no one cares about you,you are not special.
Don’t put music on!Don’t mask the problems.Fucking cry already.Take it all in.Let it all out.Put sad music on.Get your wounds deeper.Don’t do anything else.Feel godamnit.FEEL.For once ,look life in the eyes.
And now it’s over.You feel a rush.You are not ‘happy’,glad or whatever.You are in total blissfulness.
Now,get up.Man up.Handle your business,you pussy.
You did it.
I hate the word ‘happy’.
I can drill a hole in your head and you will be happy forever.
English don’t do justice here.Greeks have two words that sadly are translated to ‘happy’.
εὖτυχια=good luck or made good.
εὖδαιμονία=living though ethics and logic,human flourish(=eudaimonia).
Happy may be a product of luck.
Eudaimonia means you work towards a good life,through ethics and logic.
What do you want to be or do in life?
What do you want?
What do I want?
The best I can ask out of life is to have good luck and flourish.