About Virtue and Options

What is virtue?

Who is a virtuous man?

Someone who subjugate his behaviour to par his high moral standards.

Practically,he is a man who will not cheat on his girlfriend,won’t betray his friends,won’t steal,lie,kill or in any way cause go against his values.

The one who has ethos.

The english translation for ethos is ‘character’.But more accurately,it’s morality.Doing the right thing.Or the most optimal(?)

The kick here is that ethos/morality are subjective to the individual.Or at least that’s what Plato says.

There are different schools of thought regarding personal and social morals.

From Aristoteles to Plato to Eracletus to Seneca and the list goes on.

If we inspect history carefully we will see that the morals of society(politiki) change based on chronology,wars,technological advancements,religion and political system.

*Notice that once upon a time politics was the same thing as the values of a society.Does certain political ideologies flourish under certain values or vice versa?

For example ,100 years ago,women didn’t have the right to vote.And 200 years ago it was normal to have slaves.

Realistically speaking,even if there are objective morals,can we really achieve an ideal society based on them?

How that would affect the individuality and free thinking of people?

That is for you to answer.

To get back on the matter at hand,who is really virtuous?

If a man says he is not gonna betray his friend,how can you trust him?

More importantly,how can he trust himself and say that he is virtuous?

Did he ever have the chance to prove it?

Did the devil ever hit his door and he didn’t answer?

Let’s say that your best friend is having a gorgeous girlfriend.How many times did you think about you two together?

But sure,that’s in human nature.Of course you would never betray your friend and sleep with his girlfriend.You are a virtuous man,right?

Now,if one day she comes by you house,she gets naked and starts kissing you and rubbing your dick…are you still a virtuous man?

Can you see the difference now?

You trick,foul yourself into thinking you are virtuous(based on the current societal morals) to feel better,while you really don’t know.

The chances you would get laid with her are very low.So it’s not a matter of you being virtuous.It’s just that you have no options.

You are loyal to you girlfriend.You would never cheat on her.

Really?

Or maybe is that you can’t cheat even if you wanted too?

No options.

A man with no options can not show virtue.

That’s why when a politician or celebrity gets caught doing something ‘immoral’ by the standards of society,every white knight,puritan journalist and ‘moral’ woman,goes into frenzy judging him and his choices and how unacceptable this is.

Yeah,like they know how it is to have millions of dollars and 100s of chicks waiting for you to blow your brains out in every corner.

Please notice how these ‘moral’ women on the TV would be the first one to indulge with ANY celebrity or celebrity status ‘immoral’ man.

Is a man virtue-less until he is proven virtue?

Like Callimachus said:’There is no one more ungrateful,than the graced’.

Someone must give you something first in order to deem you grateful or ungrateful depending on your actions.

It’s always subjective to the  observer.

Is every one guilty until proven otherwise?(in society the opposite is applied,but not in reality).

Do you see the glass half-full or half-empty?

The Schrödinger’s cat was an experiment that showed a cat being in a box with a timer that would release a lethal poison in an unexpected time.

Until they opened the box,the cat was both dead and alive.

Until a man shows virtue,he is both moral and immoral.

But does the absence of morals,amorality,means that you disregard morals in general,hence morals of other people?

Doesn’t that make you immoral,through your actions,since they go against other people’s morals?

Or the negative connotation of amorality stems from fear?(see religion).

Is morality a social construct after all?

Truth is,that’s not important,because people are gonna have morals no matter what.

But there will be subjective.A mixture of intelligence and social nurture.

What are you gonna do though?

No matter what your philosophical view is,you have to be a realist.

Even if people are virtuous,ethical and have strong character deep down,you are safer if you wait to deem someone virtue after they showed such characteristics.

Don’t jump the gun about a optionless guy.

But what about women?

Who is a virtuous woman?

That is more simple.Women are on the passive spectrum of social dynamics.

They receive,but don’t act.

Men build temptation(they hit on women),women merely accept it(they say yes or no).

For a woman to be virtuous,she just has to exclude herself from situations that would deem her un-virtuous.

For example,a woman with a boyfriend would not put herself in a party full of single men,wearing the most provocative clothes she can find.

*Don’t confuse this statement.I am not suggesting don’t go out and have fun.Actually i am not even suggesting to do the above.I am just presenting some observations.

And if someone did approach her,she would cut him off.

But the optionless woman still applies.

If a guy approaches you,but you don’t like him at all,can you really say that your ‘no’ to him,had a moral high ground or that your absence of physical attraction to him prevented you from saying ‘yes’?

Don’t listen to me,just pay attention and observe calmly what you think and what you feel on those situations.But do it with honesty.

Pay attention to the world and how people interact with each other and you will see it.

 

To conclude,as i said you are more safe if you hide your cards.

You have nothing to lose if you are a bit cautious,but everything if you believe the lies everyone tell themselves.

Remember no one is really special.

But don’t get angry.Besides,what are morals anyway?

Break the rules(but don’t break the laws).

 

That’s it folks.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How to think freely and speak freely

Since you were a little kid,you wanted to fit in.

You wanted to be a good boy for your ‘mommy’.

You went to school and you had to have a perfect behaviour so the teachers won’t yell at you and give you bad grades.

Later on,you wanted to be a nice guy so the girls may like you.

Then you got a job and you didn’t want to upset your boss.

You didn’t want to upset society.

You were a normal guy ,leading a mediocre life.

In the meantime,to achieve all of the above you had to cut down ‘expenses‘.

Your wants and needs were cut down.Your urges,your desires…

Your thoughts were confined by the limits created by society’s narrative.

It’s all good.If you don’t belong,you are a freak right?

You are an outlaw,a criminal.

Getting what you want is selfish ,right?

Life must be hard,right?

Right?

All those people living life on their terms are outliers.

You just want to fit in.You are scared to be alone outside,in the dark.

You wanna have a tribe.

Do you know what’s the most common trait of dump people?

The desire to be in a tribe,a group.

People fight over anything,because they have to take a side,they have to follow someone.

A sports team,a political group,a clique,a fraternity etc.

Which is all good.

You can do all these things,but be outcome independent.

Be a hypocrite,not a follower.

In order to be mentally free,you need to have the ability to take the good and disregard the bad in any situation.

Most of these group have some short of leader or influencer.

Some people who have built authority,hence many ideas go unexplained or without critical thought.

They form groupies who follow them blindly and don’t disagree with anything,because they fear they will get ostracized.

It is a very common phenomenon of low IQ people.They can’t form their own thoughts or don’t have the powerful personality to disavow any kind of authority over their intellectuality or world theory.

They also fall for mass pshycology.They behave like the next guy behaves so it creates a vicious cycle.

Take a look at some examples:

  • Sports.People beat up other people for cheering a different team.Pathetique.
  • Politics.Following a leader who does not really care about you and his success has zero impact on your life.
  • Being proud about being of a certain nationality,while it was a matter of pure luck that you did.
  • Socially pre-approved opinions.’The man always pay at the first date’ or ‘Money is evil‘.
  • Opinions of people in Tv,aka celebrities.Immediate approvement.’Leonardo DiCaprio said it so it must be true’.

Common theme is,that rich people are smart and famous people are smart,hence their opinions are worth more than yours,so you must obey.

That’s how authority works.Celebrities endorse politicians for a reason(not a ‘cheap’ reason).

There is a misconception about famous/rich/successful people ,perpetuated by the media.

These people are not special.

The moment you realize that every person,who in your eyes,is winning in life,is not smarter than you,then you will have made a leap towards improving yourself and your outlook in life.

This ‘revelation’ when internalized,can be the sole reason you will be able to ‘escape’ society and the average life.

You will have a life of abundance.

But the point of this post,is to make you aware of yourself.

More precisely,make you aware of your own thoughts.

It’s easy to get caught in what everyone thinks.

Do not care about what people think of you.Ever.Even if it’s good.They change their opinions really fast.

Free your mind and you will free your will.

Escape the clutter of information and pre-packed opinions.

How?

1)Be a contrarian.When faced with an opinion,always assume or think in your head the opposite.Even if the original thought was yours,always entertain the opposite.Disagree with yourself.That way,when you reach a conclusion,you will now for sure it’s yours.Also,this will increase the quality of your conversations.Examining all the possibilities and different perspectives lead to great ideas and better understanding of the subject.

2)Go into a debate/discussion,allowing the possibility you being completely wrong.The objective of a heated debate should be to learn from each other,rethink ideas and opinions and mature your ability to accept different ones.If you go in with the mentality of ‘winning'(i.e making the person change his mind) then you are already a loser.Unless you have an agenda.Then you shouldn’t rely on facts or critical thinking,but only emotion and other Machiavellian tactics,which in itself deserves a whole other post.

3)Take your time.Let the new idea,ideology or thought sink in.Give your brain time to analyze it.Then decide if you agree or not.Don’t be too eager to agree or disagree.

4)Have a personality.That’s the gist and the most important thing.Don’t let charms,beauty,glamour or authority rob you of your critical thinking,by appealing to your emotions or impressionabillity.I’ve seen dozens of guys being brain and yes-men around beautiful women.I’ve seen people voting for certain candidates,only because a guy they look up to told them.I’ve seen guys afraid to disagree(or even worse,pretending to agree whole-hearted) just because they want other people to like them or because they are not popular.

Free your mind and you will free your will.

If you don’t speak true,how are you gonna take what you want?

How are you gonna manifest your will?

But i understand it takes practice to be able to say what you want.

Actually,my bad.It take balls.

The fastest way is to acquire Fuck you-money.

Yeah,that will solve most of your problems.

But for now,let’s make it simpler.

I want you for the next 3 days to say:’No’.

No.

That’s right.There’s your magic word.

‘Hey Mike,wanna grab a coffee?’

No.

‘Hey baby,i want to see you tonight’

No.

You should do ONLY things you really want to do.If you don’t feel like it,you say no.

If they ask why,you are not allowed to say.Just no.

 

So there you have it.How to think freely and speak freely.This applies to me too of course.

You can disagree with me in the comments!

Feel Free….

 

That’s it folks!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Random Thoughts #4

It’s been some time right?

Almost 3 months and this blog has been cathartic!

We’ve reached over 3000 views and 1000 unique visitor,which is awesome for something i do for fun!

I still struggle to get my message out,but i am finding my true voice slowly.

I have found my writing rhythm and i am very very happy with my last 4 blog posts.

My thoughts are more clear and they are easier to manifest into words.

I realize that i have so much content i want to write.

It’s funny that i haven’t realized the depths of my craziness until i started writing this blog.I love it!

My next goal to write a small free e-book about visualization.It’s a question i get a lot and i have some unique perspective and techniques and i think a 6-7 pages e-book will be able to cover this.

I want to get it done by February.

In the meantime,i will publish tomorrow why you should not follow me…expanding on my latest post!

Thanks to everyone who read even one line i wrote!

That’s it folks!

 

P.S:If you want to interact with me,follow me on twitter.

I am connected with some great people there,great content and insights!

 

Shutter Reallity

Do you remember the last time you waited in a line to pay for groceries?

Do you remember the guy cutting the line,because he was ‘in a hurry?’

What did you do?

How did you feel?

‘It’s not right he did that,but maybe he is busy’

‘I don’t want to say anything,i don’t want to be reactive’

‘I don’t want to cause trouble’

‘Who cares,i will just wait 3 more minutes’

‘Maybe someone else will talk’

You look down,mumble something about rudeness and that’s it.

 

You may think that this is not a big deal.You were polite to let him go first.You wanted it.

Yes,that’s it.You wanted to help him,YOU allowed him…Although he didn’t say thanks…

This has happened before.The other day at the bank.

It happened in the restaurant.They got you the wrong dish,but you still ate it without complaining.

Remember saying sorry because you were in the way?

Remember when people ignore you when you talk?

Remember the cute girl you didn’t have the courage to talk to?

Remember your didn’t ask for that raise?

Remember you didn’t pursue this idea?

 

Do you remember ALL the times you let yourself down?

All the times you put others above you?

Do you remember the feeling of being lesser than the others?

Maybe you don’t.

 

The guy in the mirror remembers.The guy in the mirror you look everyday and say today is different.’Today i will handle my buisiness.I will take control.I will impose my OWN reality.’

The guy is looking at you.Looks down on you.Are you comfortable looking this guy in the mirror?

Every morning you make sure your teeth are clean,your hair is tight,your cloths are good etc.

Everyday you look in the mirror to make sure that guy is looking good.

How you feel looking him in the eyes after your day is over?

In the morning you promised him you will get what is yours.

Are you comfortable lying to him?

Would you lie to your friends?

 

You need the guy in the mirror.You need him.

He is the manifestation of your deepest desires.

He is the future you want.

You need to get him out!You need his help.

What you need to do?

PUNCH THAT FUCKING MIRROR.

Bleed.

Shutter your image.Kill your alter ego.

You need to kill what it’s inside that mirror so you can let it grow inside you.

 

You need to destroy reality.

When you are sick,your organism kills the bacteria,because they are foreign to the body.

They don’t belong there.

YOU do not belong in this reallity.You are sick.

You are a patient trapped in a hospital.

 

In order to create your own reality you need to eliminate the one you are looking.

You need to say a big fat NO to the reality society tries to create around you.

 

  • A guy cuts the line.Call him out.
  • Talk loudly.
  • Move proudly
  • Apologise to none.
  • Talk to everyone.
  • Create businesses
  • Say NO.
  • Say YES only to things you really want to do.
  • Disagree.
  • No regrets.
  • Look straight into their eyes.
  • Disregard the opinion of everyone.
  • Own everything.Touch,move around,claim everything and everyone.
  • Shout.
  • Be sarcastic,joke about everything.
  • Be super serious.
  • Irrational confidence.
  • You can do everything.
  • Declare this.
  • If it doesn’t work,double down.
  • Try again and again and again because you can do everything.

Society tells you yes?

You say no and do the exact opposite.

Be a blind wolf.

You don’t see anything.You can only imagine how things look like or work.

And most of the time that’s how things are.

 

It is snowing today.I was cold.

I went out and shouted to the sky.

No one notices the crazy one,but everyone wants to be like him…

 

 

That’s it folks!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What if…

What if i was born rich?

What if i was tall?

What if i was the best athlete?

What if i had the best voice?

What if i’d done things differently?

What if…

People ask this question everyday.

It’s a cruel and unforgiving question,that will never reward you.

It’s mental masturbation.Numbs your mind from pain.

You go into a spiral of endless possibilities,fantasizing about a different life.

You dwell about the past,you are bitter about the present and angry about the future.

 

Hmm…

Wait now…Are you mindlessly just wondering and pondering about your life or these thoughts are your brain screaming at you?

Is this your brain trying to make you see what you REALLY want?

You put your favorite music on,you lay down and your mind starts drifting to a different reality.

At first.Then,some time goes by and the mixed ball of thoughts starts to unfold.You stop thinking about the past or about unrealistic things.You touch base,reallity.You are starting to have sane thoughts.Thoughts that actually make sense.

‘imagine getting that job’

‘Imagine passing this class’

‘Imagine talking to that girl’

Imagine…

DON’T.

Now you know!Now you see!

You understand what you really want.All along,your mind was telling you what to do.The uncertainty was never there.You just never listened.

Now you need action.Get off your ass and start doing.

Let’s make a deal.

The next time one of these thoughts come to your mind.stop EVERYTHING you do,get up and act towards it.

It doesn’t matter how small or big the step will be.Just making it happen.It will get you started.It will make mental culprit and turn your thoughts into reality.

 

‘Gosh,it would be nice to have a 6-pack…’

Great!Get up,go for a run.

Or throw away the candies.

‘Man, if only this girl liked me’

Get your phone and shoot her a text.

Talk to her through Facebook,twitter,whatever.

The important thing is to take action.

Just don’t give enough time to your mind,because your mind will actually back off.

You will go on flight or fight mode.

Act as soon as possible.

 

Who knew,that you already knew what you want.

When you are calm and relaxed,without stress,your own self will reveal to you your deepest secrets and desires,you just have to listen.

Silence can be louder than a hundred cannons.

 

That’s it folks!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Money and Happiness

Money.

‘Money is the root of all evil…’

‘You do everything for the money’

Money causes people to be evil and mean

Money doesn’t buy happiness

You hear these statements everyday.From the media,the taxi driver,your college teacher.

Money has become this abstract symbol that represents many different things.It is portrayed poorly and most of the times they use it to create a certain narrative.

Money means different things,depending on what place you have in life.

  • For a homeless person,money means to survive another day
  • For an artist,it means more free time to perfect his craft
  • For a college student,it means better education
  • For a family,money is a way to put food on the table
  • For a rich guy,money=freedom
  • For a country,money=power and influence

*Companies,banks etc are not entities by their own.They are just means to accumulate wealth.

Money is everything and nothing of the above.It can mean the whole world when you don’t have it and nothing when you have a lot.

You will have a different approach to it in different times of your life.

It depends on where you are right now and your hierarchy.

 

You want to take care of yourself .Buy food,pay rent or your medical bills.

Then you want to be independent and say ‘Fuck you,i don’t need you’ to everyone.

And then you take care of your loved ones.

Money transforms in relation to what you are.

If you are a psychopath,money would translate to power,to pussy,to privileges etc.

Many people just love the game of making it.So,it’s nothing but numbers on a paper.

But look at the title.Money and Happiness.

Does money buy happiness?

Can’t you tell?

‘But happiness is experiences and moments!’

I agree.

Money buys experiences.Money buys freedom.Money buys time

 

Why people buy a Ferrari?

Status symbol.Power.

True.

But,have you ever drove a Ferrari?

You drive a ford focus.Pretty decent car,it serves you well.Can go from A to B and not break down.So,why would you want to buy and over-expensive piece of engine?

The experience.The half a million dollar Ferrari,worths that much because you buy the experience of driving this feat of engineering.

Why eat a 306$ steak,when you can eat a 6$ steak.It’s just meat.

Sure.But you are not paying for the food,you are paying for the experience:

Although,i don’t like most of Buzzfeed’s videos,this particular series gives an important lesson.

Watch these videos until the end.When they try the most expensive stuff,they don’t even say ‘Oh that tasted good’.They say it’s a different experience.

I am not saying throw away all your money to expensive clothes and cars.It’s not about that.


Feeling miserable and trapped?

You have the freedom to leave.Skip town.

Go anywhere in the world.Meet new people,learn new language and cultures.You have the freedom.

You can help the unfortunate.You can do whatever you want.

You have the freedom to say ‘No’ to things and people you don’t want(which is in itself a form of power).


And you have the all the time in the world to spend time with people you want.Your loved ones.

You are not bound to a 9-5.You can work,you can create.

You eat the best food,have the best medical care.You will live a long healthy life.


So,money and happiness.

Eventually it’s about how you use money.There are a lot of rich people who are miserable.

It’s not enough to have money.

Also,you don’t need extreme amounts either!

Now,it doesn’t mean that you don’t have to work or challenge or better yourself.On the contrary,it means that money can enable you to improve and move forward.

You need to put the work in and handle your business!

 

That’s it folks!

How to stop stalling and take action NOW doing 8 simple things

Everyone starts somewhere.Your point zero.

You went on the internet seeking the knowledge to help you improve your life.You started learning and learning,you just shut your mouth and read everything you could find.

This should describe your first year.Your first year should be dedicated to consume as much information as possible.You are a newbie.

But there it goes.One,two,three years you are reading and reading every book and every post on the internet.You still didn’t make a lot of progress in your life.

Wanna know why?Because you don’t apply what you learn.You spend TOO much time consuming and zero time doing and living.I have been there.

It’s ok.Here’s what i did:

 1) Go for a walk.Everyday. When you find yourself too much inside your head,go out,get some sun and clear your head.

  2)Meditate. The best way to get focus,unplug and asses your priorities is to sit in a room,alone with your thoughts and meditate.

  3)Most people don’t act because they are scared of failure.Embrace it.Don’t be scared,you will fail again and again,you will also change as a person.Be open and accept everything.

  4)Lift some heavy ass weights.There is nothing more grounding than doing squats and deadlifts.

  5)Keep a notebook.Write a to do list.That way you will have a plan,a step by step, on what to do everyday,so you avoid procrastination and actually move forward.

  6)Riff.Talk with other people.Talk to the cashier at the bank or the grocery shop.Small talk,although boring,can get you out of your shell and make you comfortable talking to strangers and expose yourself.Most internet dwellers are socially retarded.

  7)Get a hobby.It can be a musical instrument,a foreign language,dance class or some kind of sport.Preferably,i would choose something that includes other people,so you get a chance to socialize.

  8)Finally,there is too much noise and useless information out there.Every 1-2 months,take a week off.What do i mean?For 1 week DO NOT consume any information.Don’t read,don’t watch TV,don’t go on social media.If you want information about something you are forced to talk with people.You will see your creativity go through the roof.You will have so many ideas,you will not be able to act on everything.


Now let’s examine your life from another perspective and see what is really going on and why inaction is so fatal:

You read.You dress well and you eat right.

You spend a lot of time consuming book after book and post after post,learning how to make money,how to be alpha ,how to meet women etc.

Hours upon hours.You spend a lot of time self improving.

………..

Meanwhile,there is an ugly,beta,fat fuck out there,with a girlfriend,a decent job and a solid social group.

He hasn’t read a book since he was in college,he wears an oversized shirt and a baggy pair of pants,he eats junk every day and he never lifted anything over 5 pounds.

Wait…how this guy can achieve anything?

Simple.He lives.

He lives his life.He takes action.He does not spend his whole day in the house,reading up forums,waiting for the perfect magical blog post that will give him the solutions to all of his problems.

He talks to people,to women,he socialize and has fun.

Self improvement can be another excuse for inaction.It’s another way to feed your wounded ego in order to feel special,because you are underachieving in your life. Self improvement can actually be the worst form of procrastination and mental masturbation.

You can be the wisest man,the most good looking,the most confident but if you don’t take action,you will never succeed .

You don’t need to put your life on hold,until the perfect moment comes and change your life.

That’s the bullshit,generic stuff you see chicks posting on tumblr.

You want something?Go get it.

Now.Now it’s the time.

Do and improve.

Experience+Time=Improvement.

Period.You can’t go around that.

The only think you can attain online is advice,tools to get there faster and with more efficiency.

In the end it’s up to you to go from A to B and fulfill your desires.

Spend more time doing than improving.That’s the only way to improve even faster.


Give up the notion of being better than the others,because you ‘know stuff’.

Kill your ego know.

Truth is,if you actively trying to change your life,you are above average…actually WAY above average.But notice the ‘actively’.

If you only spend your time reading and not doing,then you are not better than the next guy who spends 8 hours watching netflix.

The process of self improving should be enjoyable of course,but should not be confused with entertainment.You need to challenge yourself to learn.

This journey is a marathon.A never ending one.The idea is to go beyond the finish line.

There should be never be a point where you say ‘I am done improving’.The moment you stop learning you become a prisoner of your own limiting and pre-determined thought patterns.You stall.You die.

So,since you will never be perfect,there is not a perfect time to act.So act as soon as possible.NOW.Yesterday is late.

They say your biggest opponent is yourself.I say your biggest opponent and friend,is TIME.

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That’s it folks!